Autumn Colors Theme Night!

Theme night for Awana tomorrow is Autumn colors.  Remind the kids to wear reds and oranges and yellows and greens and maybe even some leaf patterns & other autumn patterns.

Bad Attitudes Are Automatic Responses

Attitudes can be good or bad and are inherently interwoven into everything we do. They often rest just below the surface and are sometimes difficult to read or understand in adults, let alone our children. Billions of dollars are spent each year to create or change attitudes in you toward certain products or activities. Furthermore, attitudes are highly contagious. As a parent, you know that children can develop a whole outlook on life based on the latest TV show or by spending time with a particular friend. Attitudes affect how we view life and respond to it.

Attitudes are a way of thinking about certain aspects of life. They actually have a purpose: to prepackage a response based on a history of other experiences similar to the current one. Attitudes help people understand the world and make sense of the things around them. They are necessary shortcuts and provide consistency and clarity for knowing how to respond to repeated events and situations. Without attitudes, you would have to reevaluate each person, food, and entertainment choice over and over again, making life unbearably complicated. Instead, your attitude prepares your posture and gives you a pattern of responses every time you see a familiar trigger.

One helpful way to address bad attitudes is to stop using the word "attitude." In many families it's overused and is just a trigger for conflict. You might use the words "automatic response" instead. "Bill, I’ve noticed that whenever I try to give you an instruction you have an automatic response of resistance." Or, "Tanya, it seems that you have an automatic response toward homework. We need to talk about that."

Helping children deal with bad attitudes is not easy and requires insight from parents into the hearts of their kids.

For more ideas about helping children with attitudes, read chapter 6 in Good and Angry, Exchanging Frustration for Character In You and Your Kids by Dr Scott Turansky and Joanne Miller, RN, BSN.

ATTENTION PARENTS!! We Need Your Help!

Remind your kids to get sponsors for their 25 day fast for BGMC!  We begin on Sunday and go through Thanksgiving!  If your kids don’t drink soda, that’s fine.  Have them fast some other treat that they take in regularly for those 25 days and ask people to sponsor them per day.  If your child REALLY struggles or doesn’t fully understand why we do this, get friends and family to sponsor them by the HOUR and only do it for a day or a week.  Feel free to adapt this fundraiser to your child.  In fact, if you let me know in advance what your child is fasting (within reason), and if they bring in at least $50 through sponsors, I will do my best to purchase that item (in a small amount) for them at the end of the 25 days and give it to them instead of a soda.  For instance, if your child fasts cookies for the 25 days, I will buy them a big cookie or a small pack of cookies as their reward!  But please let me know soon.  Those who do the soda will receive a free can of soda at the end, of course.  Awards will be given out at our big Family Thanksgiving service on November 27^th or the following Sunday.

(For the record, we have only raised a little over $100.00 this year and our year ends with the school year!  We really need the kids to step up to these challenges if we’re going to have any chance of making our goal of $1000.00.  If just 10 of our kids got 4 sponsors for $1 a day over the 25 days we would reach our goal with just this one fundraiser!  Encourage them to put a little work into it.  It’s important to teach our kids to work for something greater than themselves and to sacrifice for others.)

Light up the Darkness Theme Night Tomorrow Night at Awana Clubs!

Tomorrow night is Awana Clubs again and this week our theme requires a flashlight per kid and for more fun, neon, glow-in-the-dark clothes/trim/accessories!  Glow sticks work great for this night!  Make a head band out of them and bracelets and ear rings, etc.  While the world celebrates death, fear, and darkness, let’s celebrate life, love and light! 

The Value of Training

Every day you're training your children to become healthy responsible adults. Is it okay to get up and walk away in the middle of a meal? Is it acceptable to leave the table without helping to clean it up? Is it all right to eat without saying thank you to the one who prepared the meal? How will kids learn what's appropriate if you don't train them?

Unfortunately, as parents we get upset when our children need lots of correction or when they can't seem to change right away. It is true that some problems our children have take longer to overcome than others. Our response as parents is important, though. Our exasperation can damage the relationship. Firmness is important but the harshness can do more harm than good.

Kids make mistakes. Whether the errors are deliberate or accidental, children need a godly way to think in order to get back on track. Identify an issue you wish would change in one of your children. It might be arguing whenever you give an instruction or complaining when life doesn't go just right. Break the problem down and think of the alternatives you wish your child could do or think.

Talk about proper alternatives and look for positive ways to influence your child to maturity. You may have to use consequences to motivate change but don't neglect the potential of teaching new patterns of thinking, developing new skills, and giving children a vision for doing what's right.

Most of all, be patient. Training takes time and implies lots of work. You're a coach and your child is in training. Give your kids a vision for living life on a different level and they will grow into some great relating patterns.

For more ideas about working with a heart-based approach to parenting, consider Parenting is Heart Work by Dr Scott Turansky and Joanne Miller, RN, BSN.

THIS SUNDAY!

Jesus is coming back!  The Bible tells us if we are watching, we will see signs of His returning.  We call that the rapture of the Church.  After the Rapture, Jesus will come to earth to rule as King for 1,000 years.  Satan will be bound, and there will be peace on earth at last.  But once the 1,000 years are complete, Satan will be loosed and will again deceive many people.  This will be Satan’s last battle against God and God’s people.

When the last battle has been won, those who do not have their names written in the Book of Life will be judged.  Those whose names are in the Book of Life will live forever with God.  Everyone on earth has the power to choose at which destination they want to end up.

This Sunday we wrap up our focus on the 16 Fundamental Truths through our Route 66 series and will make sure every child who shows up for Kids Church this Sunday is given the opportunity for salvation so that he or she can be ready for Jesus’ return and watch for Him in anticipation rather than fear!  

BGMC SUNDAY!!

Also remember to have your kids bring their Buddy Barrels this Sunday! 

It’s missions Sunday and we need to keep working on our $1000 goal for the year!

SPEAKING OF OUR $1000 GOAL…

It is time for another fundraiser! 

This Sunday, kids will be given sponsor forms for our 25 day soda (or other snack food) fast leading up to Thanksgiving Day!  They will want to start getting friends and relatives to sponsor them a little bit each day or hour so that their fasting counts for something!

Every child that participates for any length of time and turns in money that they collected at the end, will receive a free can of soda to enjoy after their long abstinence!

PLEASE NOTE:  The actual fast does not begin until NEXT SUNDAY so they have a week to start on those sponsors before they actually begin!

Christmas Program rehearsals begin NEXT SUNDAY

during the 10:30am service and after adult worship. 

Kids will be dismissed from adult service during the announcements if they are interested in participating this year.

PARENTING TIP

The Good Side of Anger

We’ve worked with many families, helping them deal with anger, both in children and adults. One of the first truths that we try to communicate is that anger is good for identifying problems but not good for solving them. Unfortunately, too many people don't understand anger's benefit and, as a result, end up feeling guilty about being angry, further complicating the emotional picture.

It's important to understand that anger is not good as a response to problems. It usually builds walls, increases tension, and contributes to distance in relationships. But we do believe that anger is good for identifying problems. Once you understand anger, you'll be able to use it to your advantage to point out problems in life. Then you must move into another mode or plan to solve those problems.

Ephesians 4:26 says, "In your anger do not sin." This verse is just one that tells us that there is an anger that isn't sinful.

One dad told us that when he began thinking about anger this way his anger became less intense, he was angry less often, and when he did get angry, he knew what to do about it. That is exactly what we're saying.

There are plenty of books on the market about managing anger and you can do a lot to calm your emotions but the anger control books don't solve the real problem – your kids keep doing the wrong things! If you begin to use anger to identify the problems and then develop healthy solutions to address them, you'll be using anger in a positive way.

Many parents have given up hope, believing that they have lost the battle with anger. They’re plagued with guilt about their emotions. Before you can improve your anger management or your children’s, you must first think rightly about anger. Anger is good for identifying problems but not good for solving them.

This parenting tip comes from the book Good and Angry, Exchanging Frustration for Character In You and Your Kids by Dr Scott Turansky and Joanne Miller, RN, BSN.

Awana Clubs tomorrow night at 6:15pm

NO THEME NIGHT!

Pastor Kevin & Aimee will be on Vacation so Mayme Johnson will be checking kids in & tallying scores for the night.  Please be patient with her.  It is a tall task to cover for Aimee with all the number crunching she does every week.  If there are any issues, please be patient and we will fix it when we return next Wednesday when our theme night will be the WILD WEST!

This Sunday!

As we go through life, our bodies often need repair.  We become sick or injured, or we suffer from emotional strains.  Sometimes we can seek help from human sources – doctors.  But many times we need the help only Jesus can give.

What amazing love Jesus showed when He died on the cross.  Not only did He provide salvation for our souls, but the Crucifixion also made a way to receive healing for our bodies.  The stripes Jesus endured were for our sicknesses.  Because of Jesus’ willingness to endure this for us, healing has been provided for us.

This week James will help the children understand that Jesus has power to heal and we need to have faith to believe in His power. 

A Practical Way to Teach Responsibility

Some children have a hard time doing anything without getting distracted. One mom, Heather, said, "When I tell my five-year-old son, James, to go get his shoes on because we've got to leave, he doesn't come back. When I go look, I find him sitting on the floor playing with his cars. And it's not just his shoes. Whenever I tell him to do something he gets sidetracked. I have to yell at him continually to get anything done."

Heather needs to use her frustration to identify the cause of the problem. James is easily distracted, but the deeper issue has to do with irresponsibility. Yes, he is only five years old, but James needs to learn to follow through with a job his mom gives him. This is the beginning of responsibility training.

Most children don't naturally feel an internal weight of responsibility. You can help develop it by watching your kids accomplish assignments and waiting for them to report back. Heather may say, "James, we've got to go so please get your shoes and bring them back to me. I'm going to wait right here in the doorway for you to report back."

As you wait, watch for distraction. At first James may need very close monitoring but as he realizes that he needs to report back and that Mom hasn't forgotten about the job, he will feel the pressure to accomplish the task. Children who need constant reminders lack the character quality of responsibility. They need closer supervision, smaller tasks, and more frequent times of checking in.

Even older children sometimes have a problem with irresponsibility. Yelling isn't necessary—more accountability is. It takes more work to wait or watch, but your investment now will give your children a valuable gift. Responsibility is the ability to complete a task even when no one is watching.

Responsibility training happens in a good instruction process. In Matthew 25, Jesus told a parable about three stewards who were given talents and the responsibility to invest them. Two of the stewards were faithful; one was not. God wants us to be faithful stewards and the roots of faithfulness are taught to children as you teach them to follow directions and report back.


For more on how to build a good Instruction Routine with your children, read the book, Good and Angry: Exchanging Frustration for Character in You and Your Kids by Dr. Scott Turansky and Joanne Miller, RN, BSN.

THIS SUNDAY!

This Sunday we will give careful thought to the God-ordained reason for the Church’s existence: to evangelize the world, to worship God, and to encourage and equip Christians for ministry.

As one small part of this large Body of believers – each part with its individual and unique function – a Christian should train himself to keep his eyes on the “road” – keep focused on the Church’s twofold goal of equipping the saints for ministry and bringing the unsaved into the saving knowledge of Christ.

Children need to see themselves as important members of the team, ready when the call comes, to assist those who are hurting and broken down along the road of life or maybe just give them some encouragement, like fuel, to keep going on their path to heaven!  While Pastor Kevin will be teaching these next two doctrines (10-11) to the adults, James will help the kids see how they can contribute to the Church and its growth in God’s overall plan and why we need to respect our Pastors and teachers that God has appointed to lead us.

A Practical Way to Teach Values

Here's a practical and effective way to teach values in your family-explain the reasons behind your rules.

When you think of rules, you may just think of a list of do's and don'ts that you are trying to impress upon your children. Rules can be much more than that though. They can be used as the vehicle to communicate values to your children. When rules are implemented and used correctly, children will learn not only to say "Excuse me" before interrupting a conversation, but more importantly, they will learn to respect others and see the value of listening first before speaking.

Ask yourself why you require your five-year-old to stay in the yard or your teenager to check in regularly. These are safety issues and develop a sense of accountability to others.

Why do you tell your son to make his bed every day or your daughter to clean and vacuum her room on Saturday? It has to do with the value of neatness and self discipline. Take time to talk about the values, not just the rules. 

We all have values that we somehow wish our children would develop and take on as their own. As they grow, our children will evaluate our values and choose the ones they understand and can relate to. You have a window of opportunity with your children in which you can teach them the values that you embrace.

Rules are values put into action. They show children what values look like, how to put them into practice, and why they are important. If we want our children to embrace our values, we need to teach them what these values are and how to implement them in their lives. Rules become a good vehicle to teach children the things that are most important to us.

While you're pondering this idea, consider some of the reasons for the rules God has for his children. It's a good way to connect with the things that are most valuable to God and his family.

This idea was taken from the book, Home Improvement, The Parenting Book You Can Read to Your Kids, by Dr. Scott Turansky and Joanne Miller, RN, BSN.

ROAD WORK AHEAD: DOCTRINE #9 SANCTIFICATION

Historic Route 66 suffered its share of road construction when traffic on it grew too quickly.  At one point Route 66 had more detours than any other federal road.  But construction is necessary for keeping a road in drivable condition.

Constant improvement is also necessary in the life of a Christian.  God is constantly at work, changing us to be more like His Son as we yield our lives to Him.  God requires His children to live pure and holy lives.  He asks for separation from sin and dedication to holiness.  These are not achieved by self-accomplishment, but by God’s promised strength and power.  This Sunday we will encourage your children to yield themselves totally to God and let Him sanctify them, constructing them into the image of His Son.

Seven Habits of Unhappy Kids

APRIL 1, 2014 BY MARK HARPER 1 COMMENT

Unhappiness is a habit that starts early in life and continues into adulthood.

If we can teach our kids to recognize these unhappy habits and give them to tools they need to change it is good medicine for their soul.

“A happy heart is good medicine and a cheerful mind works healing, but a broken spirit dries up the bones.”

Proverbs 17:22 (AMP)

1.  The Blame Game

Unhappy kids tend to blame others for their unhappiness.

Bad things happen to everybody, however good things happen to everybody too.

Happiness is a choice.

No one can make you happy. Only you can make you happy.

2. Negative Thoughts

Unhappy kids deal with negative thoughts on a constant basis.

Sometimes this is because negative words are spoken over them.

Other times they are comparing themselves to kids who are smarter or prettier.

Either way we can counter this by speaking positive words over them and using them in leadership roles at church.

3. Loneliness

I have noticed this problem getting worse over the years.

When kids get addicted to video games they don’t get the social interaction they need.

Many kids are not developing the social skills they need to be successful in life.

In the real world (no-virtual) there is a lot of truth in the statement, “It’s all about who you know.”

4. Hating School

This leads to hating their job when they become adults.

One of keys to a happy life is to find something you love to do and do it.

5. Anger

Anger is an emotion that we all experience, but it’s hard to be angry and happy at the same time.

Anger is a call to action.

When kids become angry at things they can’t control it sets them up for failure.

6. Complaining

We all need to vent sometimes, but when kids develop an habit of complaining it pushes people away.

No one wants to hang around someone who is always complaining.

7. Wanting More Things

One of the worst habits a child can develop is a sense of entitlement.

This is the attitude that the world owes me simply because I exist.

This is habit is reinforced in American culture because we communicate love by buying stuff for our kids.

One way to counter this is to teach our kids to be givers.

There you have it, “The Top Seven Habits of Unhappy Kids”.

IT’S AWANA CLUB NIGHT AGAIN… TONIGHT AT 6:15PM!!

This is it!!  Remember to bring in all your aluminum cans for bgmc tonight!!

(or the money you’ve already collected for them!)

CANS FOR C.H.R.I.S.T.!

This is your last chance to bring in cans!

Remember to bring in cans that have been thoroughly emptied and in sealed bags so they’re not leaking all over the church!

IF YOU DON’T BRING CANS TONIGHT, THEN YOU WILL HAVE TO TURN THEM IN YOURSELF AND JUST BRING IN THE MONEY! 

BRING IN those CANS!!