10 Ways to Curb Sibling Rivalry

Have you ever heard of Dominic DiMaggio? He was Joe DiMaggio's younger brother, played for the Boston Red Sox and was a seven-time All Star center fielder. Dom had a pretty impressive 34-game hitting streak in 1949, but it was his big brother Joe who brought it to an inglorious end by catching his sinking line drive to the outfield. Joe could never have his brother top his 56-game hitting streak gem in 1941.

A great example of a little sibling rivalry. By the way, after Joe's 56-game streak ended, he tore off another 16-game hitting exhibition... effectively hitting safely in 72 of 73 games! Stunning.

If you have some sibling rivalry issues in your home, check this list of 10 ways to curb sibling rivalry in your home:


1.All are created equal
Jealousy is a prime factor in sibling arguments. That monster can create upheaval in your home. Your kids are vying for your attention and affection. Let them know you have more than enough love to give and always be fair and balanced in the time and attention you give each of them.

2.Build Teamwork
Try to plan regular activities that require your children to work as a team. This will promote cooperation,
trust and bonding. There are several websites of game ideas such as www.ehow.com.

3.Set a privilege timetable
“You are giving her a cell phone? She is only 10. I had to wait until I was 13!” Siblings remember every detail of what was given to whom and when. Set a timetable for these landmarks and stick to it. If the timetable must be broken, make sure you give a clear and reasonable explanation as to why.

4.Step aside Clyde
Sometimes you just need to butt out. A parent can’t resolve every issue. When siblings are fighting, just walk away. In fact, tell them to take their argument outside. They need to learn to resolve their own conflicts. Just make sure nobody takes a golf club upside the head.

5.A picture is worth a thousand words
Parents should think outside the box. One parent suggested snapping a quick photo when your children are taunting or arguing with each other. They will see how silly or ugly the scene was and it usually ends in laughter and apologies. Creative parenting!

6.Family roles
“Dad, how come you let him get away with that, but not me?” The answer to that question is usually “because you are the oldest and know better.” Every person in the family has a role. Point these out on a regular basis.

7.Understanding
It is important to understand the talents and flaws of your kids. One son might be a great athlete and the other might have a gift for music. Never apply a “one size fits all” technique with them. Just because your oldest son loves playing football, it does not mean your other son will. Discover the unique traits of each of your children and nurture them.

8.Special circumstances
If you have a special-needs child, they will require a great deal of your attention. This can be difficult for your other children. One thing that can help is allowing them to be involved in the caretaking process. This applies also when children are sick or have injuries. Offset the extra attention by including the whole family in the treatment.

9.Safe zone
Sometimes kids need time and space to be alone. For instance your older daughter is in her room talking on the phone with her friends. Her younger sister keeps intruding on her. This will surely cause conflict. Create a safe zone for each child and make sure it’s respected.

10.One-on-one time
Make a point to spend time alone with each of your kids on a regular basis. Read a book to your youngest daughter. Shoot hoops with your son. Go for a bike ride with your teenage daughter. Your attention will mean the world to them.