Several years ago I heard a convicting story of the value and importance of making family relationships a priority. A middle-class family in the 40's had set a family goal of remodeling their old bathroom. After a year of financial sacrifices they finally had enough cash for the project. At the family conference held to pick the colors and finalize the plans one of the children suggested, "Why don't we use the money for a trip and fix the bathroom next year?" Even though it involved a change in plans, everyone liked the suggestion and that summer they took the money and went to Yellowstone National Park.
With the money spent the saving started all over in order to do the postponed remodeling the next year. When it came time to hire the contractor the family's conversation drifted to how much they had enjoyed the trip to Yellowstone and the inevitable suggestion surfaced: "Why not put off the bathroom for just one more year and take another family trip?" They all agreed.
This scene was repeated every year from 1940 until 1950 when the youngest son was killed in Korea. On the night before his final battle he wrote a letter to his parents. The letter arrived months after the family had been notified of his death. There was a special emotion as Mom and Dad sat in their living room to read to each other their son's last words.
It was a touching letter in which the young soldier expressed a premonition that he might soon die. He thanked his folks for their love and the many happy experiences of growing up, especially recalling the annual family trips they all shared. Long silence followed the reading as both quietly wept. The silence was broken when the Dad asked, "Honey, could you imagine a son writing home on the night before he died and saying how glad he was for a fancy new bathroom?"
When 1,500 school children were asked the question, "What do you think makes a happy family?," the most frequent answer was "doing things together." Over the years I've learned that in life it's not so much what we do for people that impacts them as what we do with them. Someday each one of us will die. Just as I was asked to speak at Helen's funeral, some day there will be someone who will ask our loved-ones what they want to have said about us. They'll be asked how they want us to be remembered. What will our loved-ones say? What will stand out as the most meaningful parts of our relationship with them? What memories will they cherish?
If your loved-ones are like most people, it won't be what you did FOR them. It will be what you did WITH them. It won't be how much money you spent on them, it will be the memories of the gifts of your time that you gave to them. As you look at the next four weeks, how much time have you set aside for your husband, your wife, your son or daughter, your friends? How much time are you planning to invest in those priceless relationships?
Before you move on to the next article, put the paper down, grab your calendar, get your Day-Timer or whatever else you use to keep you schedule, find a pen or pencil and take a look at the next four weeks. Go ahead, don't put it off for later. You might forget. This is too important. Now, write in a few "appointments" for one-on-one time, couple time, family time and friend time. I promise you that you'll be glad you did.
By Gary Oliver
It is time for our final BGMC fundraiser of the year and we need it bad! We still have over $1000 to go to reach our 2010 goal! So don't delay in finding or creating a hat and decorating it to be absolutely CRAZY so that it will draw lots of attention and cause people to drop money in your Buddy Barrel on the display table starting Sept. 11th! Remember that the pastor's wives will wear the winning hats (those that bring in the most money) at our Family Service in October so don't make them too messy! Any kind of hat will do this year. We have baseball caps here at the church if you can't find one to decorate, but we need EVERYONE to participate this year!
